The Anxiety Wellbeing Coach

Exit an anxiety, panic or dis-order circle.

Start putting your energy towards tools, techniques, solutions, prevention and building the life you may not have even conceived yet.

Online one-2-one coaching session blocks start from 0-5 weeks.

October 2024 is now FULL Next availability starts November/December 2024

For availability and enquiries click here to email : anxiety.wellbeing.coach@gmail.com

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Hello and welcome :) My name is Emma Mcfarland,

Accredited Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Practitioner, with 24 + years of personal practical anxiety and panic experience. Founder of Anxiety Wellbeing & former sufferer of Fear or everything!

  • Panic & anxiety

  • My body

  • Thinking

  • Breathing

  • Myself

  • Going out

  • Being with other people

  • My own space

  • Sleeping etc.

  • You name it, I was petrified

Why opt for a CBT Anxiety Coach like myself?

A man is walking down a street when he falls into a hole. The walls are so steep he can’t get out.

-A doctor passes by and the man shouts up, “Hey you! Can you help me out?” The doctor writes a prescription, throws it down in the hole, and moves on.

-Then a priest comes along and the man shouts up, “Father, I’m down in this hole. Can you help me out?” The priest writes out a prayer, throws it down in the hole, and moves on.

-Then a friend walks by. “Hey, it’s me,” the man calls out. “Can you help?” And then the friend jumps in the hole. The man says, “Are you stupid? Now we’re both down here.

”The friend says, “Yeah, but I’ve been down here before … and I know the way out.”

— From The West Wing with hat tip to Peter Shankman

I fell into an anxiety and panic hole & didn’t know how to get out either, but I know now. We can work together to help you find the ladder and get out.

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  • Treat the symptoms

  • Look for the real causes

  • Action solutions for future prevention

  • End the negative cycle

  • Start a new thriving one

Practical Experience

My practical anxiety healing journey was firstly confiding in a doctor, & speaking honestly about what I was going through. I had been experiencing panic every 30 minutes, and fear of everything. It may help you to read my story. Click above

I was scared to go out, then leave my room, then be with myself, as you can imagine this had a huge effect on my life. I was also actively avoiding telling anyone or seeking help because I believed I was going crazy and was worried the doctor would tell me had to be sectioned.

After suffering for 6 months I finally faced the fear and spoke with the doctor. I have to say I felt better talking to someone about it and had a good cry, it was a release I needed. To my relief, he said I was experiencing anxiety and panic and offered medication, which I was too scared to take and he referred me to a CBT Therapist. I was glad he had not decided I was crazy, but I was still afraid if he was wrong and that there was something more. Now I know that was only fear talking.

I had about 12 CBT sessions. Here I learned helpful ways to calm the body & mind, something I believed at the time was never going to be possible again. Also in those sessions, I learned a few Cognitive Behavioural Therapy tools & how to implement them into my life to help me navigate fearful thoughts and negative coping mechanisms I had learnt that weren’t helping me. They were actually causing me anxiety & blocking any life progress. It was!

CBT sessions were the start to reducing fear, but did not give me everything I needed. I did not know it at the time but also needed to learn how to exit the circles of fear that I was in, like how to get outside again, how to get back my life, how to get my head around what I was actually afraid of without panicking and wanting to run away. There was something missing…..

What was missing was, I did not understand why I was afraid, and what I was afraid of accept that I was afraid of panic, but why was everything else so debilitating?

I have discovered through my own journey of understanding and trial and error exiting my own cycles of anxiety and panic, and there were many, that I also needed to be aware of exactly what I was afraid of in order to exit. You cannot face what you are unaware of. I began a journey of identifying what I was afraid of really.

I found and find that if you did not know what you are afraid of, you can’t face it and still feel stuck. Many people I work with have been going around in circles for years.

Then

Over the years my own tools and CBT ones combined helped me again and again through tough life moments, such as bereavement of my parents, going through a separation, moving to a new country & enabled me to navigate towards my life goals. They have always been a helpful anchor.

I took a life long path to understanding all fears and causes of anxiety, gaining more and more insight about what the human body and mind needs and how it functions.

This enabled me to really understand, why my mind and body was doing that?! Or more accurately, what was I reacting to and why?

This holistic view enables us to understand what the body is reacting to & therefore finding the real problem, which is the REAL causes of anxiety. In order to prevent panic & know how to give your body what it needs when anxious, rather than focus on anxiety and only treat the symptoms. There is no long term solution or prevention in that.

The problem is not the human stress response anxiety or the human. The problem is the causes.

Theoretical Study

In 2015, after a funny conversation with my mum on the telephone, I decided I wanted to get a greater understanding of the CBT Practices and Principles, to be better able to teach them and improve my coaching skills. The conversation was funny because, I brought up the fact that I was still waiting for my hormones to regulate themselves after having my second son, and with the lack of regular sleep and the unpredictability of a new-born plus a toddler etc. etc. I was experiencing anxiety. No that’s not funny, but my mum’s reaction made me giggle, she didn’t get it, even when I brought up my panic experiences from the past she didn’t even remember me going through panic and agoraphobia, & I lived with her then. I thought either I was amazing at hiding it or she thought I was being a late teenager. It reminded me of how much I had learnt and understood, how much that practical info would help others get out of the same situation today and that also, other people can’t automatically tell what that you’re feeling or going through.

This thought gave me the push I needed to begin the study of Modern Applied Psychology, something I had always wanted to do. Plus I have regularly found that my own experiences have helped other people navigate theirs too, and that naturally, people feel comfortable to come to me to talk and for help and guidance.

In 2018 after 2 years of study with Achology The Academy of Modern Applied Psychology, plus The Transformation Academy I became an accredited CBT Practitioner, I started the daily anxiety management account on Instagram @anxiety_wellbeing and began coaching and guiding others through and out of the anxiety experience, thinking better, feeling better and focused on their true life goals & passions. The goal is to be thriving and not just surviving.

I plan to never stop learning & gaining insight. That is my passion.

Medication?

I did get out of the anxiety, panic circle, that I had been in for 6 months & I did it without the help of medication. Doesn’t make me a hero, it means that,

  • I was just as afraid of medication as I was panic.

  • I did the work I needed to on myself asap, rather than start medication unaware that there was nothing wrong with me, that my needs had been unmet, that anxiety was a response to the real problem. I learned that I could calm, that I wasn’t going crazy and that, feeling like that was a symptom that I could work on. I was in need of some practical tips.

  • I find that people trying to exit medication are afraid of coming off (which is normal) but that fear fuels anxiety and is enough for you to think ‘ I can’t do it’ and I‘ll never get off meds’, because the issues that caused anxiety are often still there and thinking you are not able suggests to yourself that you are broken and unable. Coupled with side effects from coming off and this fearful thinking style causes more anxiety.

  • You’re not broken, you are in need of learning how! Find out more now.

Coaching options

Hi, the following coaching information is to give you a sense of what the sessions may entail. However, everyone is different and comes to coaching at very different points of their journey. For example.

  • You may be struggling to exit the panic circle

  • You may be trying to cope with negative thoughts & or feelings

  • You may have already seen a Psychologists, CBT Practitioners etc and not gotten answers to what is happening or what is causing, let alone how to exit.

  • You may have a goal you would like to achieve and not know how to get there feeling stressed and anxious

  • You may be stuck as to why you cannot move any further in a goal, not knowing what’s stopping you

  • You may have tried it all and nothing is working

  • etc.

Therefore my goal is not to follow a ridged schedule that wouldn’t suit your needs, but to create one for your specific needs at that time of your journey.

There are two parts to my role.

1 : To help you to identify your fears and then to guide out of them, such as the fear of panic, agoraphobia, gad, social anxiety, relationship issues, work issues etc (dis-orders) circles.

2. To help and guide you to finding the real causes of that circle, to implement solutions to those causes and therefore to prevent high anxiety and panic.

3. To start building the life you want whilst maintaining the tools you have learnt.

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There isn’t the option to buy sessions online from this website without an appointment already scheduled, please contact me via email on anxiety.wellbeing.coach@gmail.com, to organise a start date.

I find it is best for us to correspond first via email for you to get a better sense of if you would like to work together to co-discover where you may be getting caught up in an anxiety circle, in order to exit.

From there I can send you more details on coaching, availability, prices and book our first sessions.

Thank you

Emma - The anxiety wellbeing coach

1 x 50 Minute Session

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1 x 50 Minute Session : Via Skype or What’s app

To answer any immediate questions you have and to offer some immediate guidance

  • Talk about your experiences and where you are now

  • Look at ways in which you may have been caught up in an anxiety circle in order for you to start to exit.

  • Learn tools in which you can begin to calm the body and mind

Your requirements are

  • To be as open-minded as possible to new ways of viewing things

  • To be willing and ready to change

  • To try new things even when you don’t feel like it

At the end of the session, you should be feeling less fearful and more confident, know what to do to help yourself calm the anxiety experience, and be able to look for and help causes of anxiety in order to prevent.

5 x 50 Minute Sessions

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5 x 50 Minute Sessions : Via Skype or What’s app

The Coaching Process

  1. Meet and greet: I get to know you, you get to know me, we will talk about your experiences, what prompted you to consider coaching, discuss your goals and future sessions.

  2. The first session or two includes learning about anxiety, how we can become stuck in an anxiety circle & helping you to discover your own innocent habits and beliefs perpetuating the anxiety circle.

  3. Subsequent sessions include learning how to exit the anxiety circle, applying a holistic approach as well as CBT tools to help you to achieve a reduction in anxiety and prevention of anxiety.

In which collaboratively we will

  • Facilitate learning and understanding about what anxiety is.

  • Look at ways in which you may have been caught up in an anxiety circle in order for you to exit.

  • Learn tools in which you can begin to calm the body and mind

  • Take a holistic approach to find the causes of your anxiety

  • Guide you through identifying and challenging negative thought patterns

At the end of the 5 sessions, you should be feeling less fearful and more confident, knowing what to do to help yourself calm the anxiety experience, able to look for and help causes of anxiety in order to prevent.

10 x 50 Minute Sessions

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10 x 50 Minute Sessions : Via Skype or What’s App

The coaching process:

  1. Meet and greet: I get to know you, you get to know me, we will talk about your experiences, what prompted you to consider coaching, discuss your goals and future sessions.

  2. The first session or two includes learning about anxiety, how we can become stuck in an anxiety circle & helping you to discover your own innocent habits and beliefs perpetuating the anxiety circle.

  3. Subsequent sessions include learning how to exit the anxiety circle, applying a holistic approach as well as CBT tools to help you to achieve a reduction in anxiety and prevention of anxiety. Plus we will work on life goals you would like to begin working on.

Collaboratively we will

  • Facilitate learning and understanding about what anxiety is.

  • Look at ways in which you may have been caught up in an anxiety circle in order for you to exit.

  • Learn tools in which you can begin to calm the body and mind

  • Take a holistic approach to find the causes of your anxiety

  • Facilitate learning Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Principles and practices.

  • Guide you through identifying and challenging negative thought patterns

  • Work together to challenge any negative thought patterns

  • Help set weekly realistic goals, small victories to lay the foundation for self-efficacy

  • Look at your present and future goals

At the end of the 10 sessions, you should be feeling less fearful and more confident, knowing what to do to help yourself calm the anxiety experience, able to look for and help causes of anxiety in order to prevent more anxiety. Be able to confidently use the tools today in and the future. Have a better understanding of yourself and know where to move forward for the next part of your journey.

I look forward to hearing from you and working together to guide you out of the anxiety circle, feeling much much better and focused on your goals!

You can contact me via email on anxiety.wellbeing.coach@gmail.com

A handful of reviews :)

Client privacy is the priority, reviews with only initial and location.

  • "Anxiety Wellbeing coaching with Emma deserves 5 stars.⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Before seeing Emma I suffered a severe panic attack that put me in the ER with heart palpitations. After being cleared by doctors I was told that my symptoms were likely related to anxiety. Anxiety had never been an emotion that I was familiar with. I tried conventional therapy and was labelled with generalized anxiety disorder. I was told that my anxiety may never get better and was given strategies on how to prevent panic. Without any improvement I searched for other resources and found Anxiety Wellbeing. Emma showed me a new approach to tackle my anxiety. She taught me how to 'face', change my perspectives, and understand my core beliefs to get to the root cause of my anxious feelings. Emma believes therapy should not be forever and wants to supply you with the tools you need to feel confident to tackle your anxiety independently. Her strategies are impactful and empowering. I went from being afraid to leave the house for a dinner with my family to going on my dream vacation to Italy! Take the leap and sign up for her sessions. The future is bright and I can't thank her enough."

    G Based in Virginia USA

  • “When I first contacted Emma I was in a place of deep panic and anxiety. I had done therapy before but never got into what really was my core beliefs and how they kept me in the anxiety circle. After a number of sessions with Emma, we worked through a number of limiting beliefs and got to work at the root of the problem rather than just focus on particular fears alone. This was perfect for me as when I faced one fear another would come up. I now have a much better understanding of myself and mind and feel so much more able to deal with what ever may come up in the future. If you are even slightly considering seeking help I would 100% recommend Emma. She has been a brilliant help with me throughout my journey and I can't thank her enough..”

    C based in Ireland

  • “I did a single session with Emma and it was the best session of therapy I have had. I have seen several therapists for anxiety before but Emma's approach to therapy was definitely the most helpful to me. In our session we discussed the roots of my anxiety, then she used a white board to discuss what is happening biologically (in a simplistic, easy to understand way), and then we applied the roots of my anxiety to the cycle I have been stuck in. We closed out our session with coping techniques that I can use immediately and she also provided me with some helpful links and attachments for future use. She is easy to talk to, non-judgemental, professional, and kind. Highly recommend for anyone who is feeling 'stuck' and alone in their anxiety battle.”

    C Based in Boston

  • “You have helped me feel so much better and so much more positive and helped me to look at anxiety in a different way. Thank you so much!! "

    E Based in the UK

  • “I was having bad anxiety while going through a rough time due to an unexpected life event and unprocessed thoughts/emotions from past trauma. I had trouble sleeping every night and felt like something terrible was waiting for me. My anxiety was so bad that it affected my gut health. I have been following the Anxiety Wellbeing Instagram page for a long time, and some of its content profoundly resonates with me. I became interested in cognitive behavioural therapy and read more about it. I was a little skeptical at the beginning, as I had never tried therapy before, and everything was virtual. However, I decided to try it because I was desperate for professional help. Emma helped me explore .my thoughts, beliefs, behaviours, and past life events, which brought clarity and helped me think more flexibly. As I got to know myself better, my symptoms of anxiety naturally resolved. Therapy sessions with Emma helped me build tools to move forward with my life and benefited me greatly ”

    M based in California

  • "Just wanted to say a massive thank you for all your help and guidance over the past few months. I'm very grateful and look forward to catching up in the next month or so. Thank you for all your lessons and help and all that you do. "

    S Based in NZ

  • "Thanks so much for our few sessions together. I learned a lot about my patterns and also some helpful strategies for better managing my thoughts and fears. I’m so grateful for your help and hope you have an amazing summer!"

    E based in Seattle USA

  • "Just a quick update. Had a big account meeting with work today and smashed it. Thanks very much for your help in getting me to this point. I came out of the meeting with the biggest smile on my face yet. Thanks again"

    N Based in Ireland

  • "Hello Emma. These 5 sessions have really been a great help and I really enjoyed them 💕 Thank you!!"

    S Based in Egypt

  • "Dear Emma, I am going out of the house without crippling fear. I am living my life focused on what matters, versus hyper-focusing on what is not in my current reality. I am growing myself, furthering my career, enjoying friends and family, all without feeling stuck. I am a better, brighter version of myself. You are such a good listener, so good at explaining things over and over again, each time in a fresh way that relates to the current worry. I could not have worked with a better therapist, and I mean that from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for everything,, my friend."

    A : Based in California, PST.

  • "Hi Emma, Thank you for the notes. I'd like to thank you for this month of therapy and I will continue to use these techniques to further reduce anxiety. I will be in touch if I have any questions and if I'd be looking for more therapy in the future. Best of luck, Kind Regards,"

    M Based in Boston

  • "I have developed a greater understanding of anxiety and why it shouldn't be feared. Able to sleep past early hours of the morning. I am now able to eat full meals. I can talk to my fears, face them, and more rationally challenge them. I can try to use the CBT method of forming a new positive perspective for each individual fear in the future. I loved that Emma always tried to use different modalities to get her message across (ie. visual, auditory, etc.) I absolutely loved the recap/feedback emails every week. I loved that they had specific achievements listed and what we will work on during the week in between sessions. Having set goals for each week in between sessions was incredibly reachable and helpful to stay engaged and on track. Thank you so much Emma,"

    C Based in Massachusetts USA

  • " Dear Emma, thank you for everything. The 20 sessions with you have been incredibly helpful. Regards T"

    T Based in Thailand

  • "Hi Emma, Thank you for the last session that we had. Seeing myself get through the last 6 months has been exhausting but so evolving as well. I intend to practice all my learnings going forward. I know how much I needed this and am so grateful I got to connect with you in this journey. Thank you once again. Take care. Thanks, S"

    S Based in India

  • "Dear Emma, I hope you are well. I've just come back from my trip (which was absolutely wonderful!). Thank you for your coaching and your guidance, I learnt so much in just 12 weeks. Wishing you all the best and thank you for being a big part of my healing journey. Best wishes, D"

    D Based in Dubai

  • "First of all, I thank you so much from the bottom of my heart ❤️ It’s been a week after our last session and I’m doing my best with all what I’ve learned. I had a great 10 sessions I feel good at myself from day 1. You’ve guided me through my healing process, I feel confident and happy person again 😊Thank you so much once again and I’m really grateful that I’ve found you 😊,J "

    J based in UK

  • "Thank you! I feel sessions went extremely well and we addressed exactly what I needed. I've learnt to manage anxiety and am less afraid of how I feel. Plus know what causes it now. I can see that everything is not always my responsibility, speaking so much more kindly to myself. Thank you so much A

    A Based in California